Crissa Boyink

Years ago I lived a traditional suburban life - the “American Dream.”

I was a:

  • Wife
  • Mother
  • College Graduate
  • Home Owner
  • Church Member
  • 401K Retirement Contributor

And for a few years, I was fine with this pre-scripted life. This “one-size fits all” formula.

Act 1

But it wasn’t long before I discovered that the one-size did not fit me. I read ahead in the script and didn’t like how it ended. I took a closer look at the reality of my roles:

  • Wife. Spending time with my husband for only a few hours each evening and most weekends.
  • Mother. Watching the neighborhood mothers playing taxi-driver getting their kids to school/playdates/practices/games. Dreading the day that I would have to do the same.
  • College Educated. Two degrees and twelve years to pay off the debt from getting them.
  • Home Owner.  Actually a 30-year mortgage owner with little true equity.
  • Church Member. Worship service attendee. Sunday school teacher. MOPS leader. Women’s group leader. Bible study facilitator. All at the same time. Where was Jesus in that?
  • 401K Retirement Contributor: Until 9/11, when the company downsized and Mike lost his corporate job.

I became discontented. And depressed. I wanted to wake up from this American Dream.

Act 2

And I did wake up. It just took several years.

In 2010 we decided to leave suburbia to see what else was out there. What we found was a life that went completely off-script. The perfect fit. A chance to re-define our American Dream. And ourselves.

  • I was still a wife, riding the ups and down of life with my best friend and business partner.
  • I was a homeschooling mother, although my role shifted from full-out teacher to facilitator.
  • I was a self-led learner - starting (another) business, assisting my children to become adults, redefining who I am.
  • I was a host - welcoming people into my home with ease, without running around to clean or stressing about what to feed them.
  • I was a relationship-driven Christian - trading church attendance for seeking Jesus in relationships with people that God brings into my life.
  • A life-long worker with no plans to retire.

But after several years, the off-script life had a few expected and unexpected twists.

Act 3

  • Harrison, our older, moved out of our traveling home and into suburbia.
  • Our truck needed a very expensive repair.
  • We sold the 5th wheel and purchased a Class B Van.
  • Miranda, our younger, moved out of our traveling home and into suburbia.
  • God decided the timing was right to shake up our empty nest, causing Mike and me to pursue Jesus on our own pathways.
  • Mike and I moved back into the Class B, with God as our GPS.
  • We are feeling called to into ministry, but not for 12-18 months.
  • We decided to close our business and sell off DitchingSuburbia.com in order to “clear the fields” to prepare for ministry.


I used to end my bio with “Continuing to live my life. Unscripted.”

Now I am living a life—not un-scripted - but, scripted by God.