Can Teens Share a Room?

Another request from our inbox - questions about teen boys and girls sharing a space.

I haven’t seen anything on your site about how a teenage boy and girl have spent years sharing a room. I’d love to hear how it works or even see it as a blog post.

Sticks-n-Bricks Bedrooms

Once upon a time our children each had their own room.  After all - we had a boy and a girl. They needed privacy. They needed to express themselves in their room decor. They needed their own space. This is what our McMansion culture teaches us.

Nevermind that their grandfather not only shared a room with his older sister, but also a bed. And both grew up to have normal, productive lives with 50+ year long marriages.

Traveling Bunks

When we moved into our first 5th wheel, the two kids shared a small bunkhouse with built-in drawers and drawers we added. They both personalized their bunk walls with posters, pictures, etc. They couldn’t stand up straight in the space so they dressed in the curtained-off upstairs hallway.

Back in the House

After our first year of travel, we returned to the house for 6 months to prepare the house for sale. We didn’t want to lose the family togetherness we experienced on the road by all of us moving back into our own rooms.

We set up Miranda’s bed underneath the loft in Harrison’s room. We repainted what had been Miranda’s room and made that the “teen room.” The kids used the room for schoolwork, playing instruments, and hanging with neighborhood friends.

The house sold and we moved back into the trailer without any issues.

Teens sharing a bedroom in the house.

Teens sharing a bedroom in the house.

The other bedroom turned into a teen room.

The other bedroom turned into a teen room.

Bunk House

The last 6 feet of our second 5th wheel was an actual room for the kids. They each had a bunk and bins to hold their clothing. There was a small dinette table for schoolwork, games, or recording sessions. Or to accumulate stuff that should be put away elsewhere.

When one child needed to get dressed, they just told the other and closed the door. If they needed space from each other, one moved into the main living area of the 5th wheel or outdoors.

They usually did their schoolwork in the main living area. They still ended up in their bunks more than we liked and we were often shooing them out.

Shared sleeping space.

Shared sleeping space.

From their table looking back into the RV.

From their table looking back into the RV.

Felix and Oscar

I asked the kids one morning if sharing a room with their sibling was an issue. They both answered that sleeping in and sharing the same room was fine.

Their only complaint had to do with the tidiness of the room. One of them likes the room picked up. The other one, not so much.

Do You Think Teens Need Their Own Space?

What’s your current living situation. Do teens get their own space? Do they suffer or benefit from it?

2 Comments Can Teens Share a Room?

  1. Picture of Amanda Amanda August 23, 2018

    Just wondering how your teens do fitting in the bunks. Our son is 13 and 5’8”. He already is crunching up his legs and sometimes would like to be able to stretch out. We have been looking at different 5th wheel floorplans, but designers are not planning on families with teens to go camping. We would like to full time in the near future, so this would be a part of his daily life.  So happy to have found your website! Can’t wait to absorb more info. Thanks!

  2. Picture of Boyink Boyink August 23, 2018

    Hi Amanda - our bunks (and I think most RV bunks) were 6’ long. Our kids did fine - our son was 6’ tall when he traveled with us. He just slept a little diagonal. Get them tired enough and any space will work. :)

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