Another request from our inbox - questions about teen boys and girls sharing a space.
I haven’t seen anything on your site about how a teenage boy and girl have spent years sharing a room. I’d love to hear how it works or even see it as a blog post.
Once upon a time our children each had their own room. After all - we had a boy and a girl. They needed privacy. They needed to express themselves in their room decor. They needed their own space. This is what our McMansion culture teaches us.
Nevermind that their grandfather not only shared a room with his older sister, but also a bed. And both grew up to have normal, productive lives with 50+ year long marriages.
When we moved into our first 5th wheel, the two kids shared a small bunkhouse with built-in drawers and drawers we added. They both personalized their bunk walls with posters, pictures, etc. They couldn’t stand up straight in the space so they dressed in the curtained-off upstairs hallway.
Back in the House
After our first year of travel, we returned to the house for 6 months to prepare the house for sale. We didn’t want to lose the family togetherness we experienced on the road by all of us moving back into our own rooms.
We set up Miranda’s bed underneath the loft in Harrison’s room. We repainted what had been Miranda’s room and made that the “teen room.” The kids used the room for schoolwork, playing instruments, and hanging with neighborhood friends.
The house sold and we moved back into the trailer without any issues.
The last 6 feet of our second 5th wheel was an actual room for the kids. They each had a bunk and bins to hold their clothing. There was a small dinette table for schoolwork, games, or recording sessions. Or to accumulate stuff that should be put away elsewhere.
When one child needed to get dressed, they just told the other and closed the door. If they needed space from each other, one moved into the main living area of the 5th wheel or outdoors.
They usually did their schoolwork in the main living area. They still ended up in their bunks more than we liked and we were often shooing them out.