7:30 wake up, and a broken sprinkler that no one seems to have made a video on how to fix. ‘Merica.”

How do you expect me to make a living for my family if you don’t list our blog on your site?”

For a computer guy you seem pretty helpless.

I have the Allstays app but don’t like using it, so I’m looking for campground recommendations in _______

I made a mistake this week.

I started looking for instances of entitlement.

When you look for something, chances are you’ll find it.

Entitlement chaps my hide. I roll my eyes. I get grumpy.

Maybe it’s our age. MsBoyink and I are both GenXers. We remember life before the internet. Before email. Before YouTube. Before smartphone apps.

Maybe it’s our stage in life. We’re in that stage of early empty-nesters.  We’ve had entitlement issues crop up. Finding the line between helping and enabling is hard.

Maybe it’s that social norms are changing. 30 years ago if you wanted to ask 20,000 people interested in RVing a question you needed a big budget, the help of a publisher, and a couple of months to wait.

Now you load Facebook, join an RV related group, and ask away. It’s free. Takes 10 minutes. From your phone.

But this isn’t a “get off my lawn” newsletter.

I got to wondering.

What’s the opposite of entitlement?

Maybe I could start looking for that instead. Maybe I’d be less grumpy.

I was hoping the answer was tenacity. Tenacity is one of my favorite words. But it wasn’t the answer.

The opposite of entitlement?


It’s entitlement.

Entitlement does mean:

The belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.

Entitlement also means:

The fact of having a right to something.

You want simpler living. Closer family. Richer education. And uncommon adventures.

But do you have a “right” to that? Are you “inherently deserving of” that experience?

Wikipedia talks about an “earned sense of entitlement” vs. “purely psychological entitlement”.

I would love to be able to say that everyone deserves to ditch the suburbs.

But the truth of the matter?

You have to earn the right.

Through choice.

Through sacrifice.

Some choices are easy. Trading a busy suburban schedule for more time with your kids is a no-brainer. Trading a lawn that needs mowing and bushes that need trimming for a comfy chair and a sunset? Sign me up.

Some choices are hard. Trading an impressive white-collar career for a low-paying online job might make those “so, what do you do?” conversations awkward. Trading a house that appreciates in value for a boat or RV that doesn’t? That isn’t what responsible adults do.

So I actually didn’t make a mistake.

I enjoy finding entitlement. From people who’ve “earned the right”.

We love hanging out with entitled people. We love interviewing entitled people. We’re even (slowly) working on a book to help people earn that entitlement.

Are you entitled?

1 Comment Entitlement

  1. Picture of Nico Veenkamp Nico Veenkamp December 18, 2017

    Weelll Michael, you are of course entitled to your own opinion. ;)

    I like your distinction between helping and enabling. I find that people who see themselves as entitled to your effort, don’t want you to enable them but that you are immediately ready to help them.

    To quote your president: #sad ;)


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